Life - or something like it

Can we really say that in today's world? In today's rush rush life its becoming harder and harder to hold down to relationships , rest aside FRIENDS!! In the thirst for moving upwards in our careers and and the race to be "successful" ,"liked by all" and the desire to have more....we have forgotten when life was simpler and friends were friends. Its so much easier to make friends and be a friend to somebody when you are younger and life is still uncomplicated.Friendships are the anchor and the life saving rafts in times of need.Hanging out together is the essence of it and so is just being what you were.There is no need for having any ulterior motive to being a friend. As we grow older and life thrusts more and more responsibities on us....the pureness of it all disappears.Then it all becomes a game of what you can gain from being a friend to someone.Expectations are high and pretenses even higher.Then it becomes tougher to identify true friends from this he...

A particular song from the movie "You Me Aur Hum" really inspired me to write this post... अपने रंग गवाए बिन मेरे रंग में घुल जाओ अपनी धुप बुझाये बिन मेरी छाऊ में आ जाओ चलो यूं करे तुम , तुम भी रहो , मै , मैं भी रहूँ हम हम भी रहे , तीनो मिलके साथ चलें साथी जनम जनम के You me Aur Hum. This song aptly describes my relationship with my Hubby and soulmate Aniruddha... I have heard people say there is one person made just for you in this lifetime and I am sure I ve found him.. We are so very different and yet go so well together.... I feel the sucess of any relationship lies in the fact that without changing your personality you are able to blend with somebody and so can the other person. Just like the song I have always been able to be what I am and have tried to let him be too. Though we have had major differences in opinions about a lot of issues....the fact always remained that we are individuals and will have seperate points of view...respecti...

Its been a Journey of Self Discovery since I moved to UK from India. After the hurried and Busy life back home where my schedule was overflowing with to-do's and pending jobs.Moving here was a blessing in disguise.. Back home...meeting friends was a hurried meal in a noisy Restaurant...with thoughts already on the chores for the next day.Spending quality time with my husband Aniruddha..was a mirage...it was always on our way to work that we could have time to ourselves... Pursuing hobbies and having actual conversations was a thing of the past.Also the only time you could be with your own thoughts was when you were not well and were allowed a sick leave from work.I am sure people in India will understand what I am talking about... Life on the Lancaster University campus has been wonderful...after recovering from the initial shock of "What do I do now that I have so much of time?" I realized that life is just passing me by when I am busy doing something else... I got in to...

Whew!! Finally Summer is here..... I moved recently to UK from India....it was like coming from a boiling pot to a freezer... I landed here in September when you could still call a day a day and night a night....so it was not too tough to settle down...Weatherwise too it was mild then and quite a bit like India in the beginning of winters.. As winter approached and trees turned bare...the days started becoming shorter and the cold fierce... To top it all the University campus is away from the city on a hillock...with breathtaking views of meadows and rolling grasslands... Being so used to seeing the sun rise and set at certain times...at first it was weird to see the sun rising at 9 am and setting at 3pm. Even though I prefer cold to any other weather it was bone numbing...and the famous british rain...which can pour down at any given time... After surviving the first british winter I am definitely looking forward to the summer.... The hint of summer is already here....the days are now...

Last week I made a new friend called Harriet and we met up for Coffee at Pizzetta..a cafe in the University... I had expected for the chat to be brief...since what could a Swede and Indian talk about... Harriet is a very interesting person........Outspoken, direct and full of fun. We met at 3 pm and were still chatting after 3.5 hours...given a chance we would have gone on.... All my pre conceived notions about our cultural differences vanished... Inspite of being brought up in such different backgrounds....it became evident that these differences is what makes people so interesting.... Our converstion moved freely from topics wide and varied....from Tolkiens "Lord of the Rings" to Free Masonry...in which Harriet plans to do her Ph D to families and husbands... It felt so great cause we connected so well... religious and cultural differences were forgotten in this journey towards friendship..

Everyday on my way to work...I pass by a park....where I see people exercising their Dogs... I see dogs of all types...frolicking away and I suddenly start missing my Dog " Buddy ". He is a brown bundle of Energy....who loves to play fetch...Hide N seek and what not... I still remember the Day we had brought him Home in Ahmedabad...a curious little fur ball of 2.5 Months.... We fell in love with him.The first few months were tough as we never had a pet earlier.... He was with us for nearly 3 years....we had to give him up to a family friend as we moved to UK for a year.... He is doing great in his new home and has adjusted well....but heart in heart I want him to miss us as we miss him...this makes me wonder whether dogs think...or associate FOOD= LOVE... Buddy is a fantastic dog...albeit a thoroughly spoilt one...who loves food of any type...he can eat anything from Oranges....to Dry Dog food.... His intelligence reflects through his green eyes...and is always ready for a G...